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If you are looking to attract a conservative girl, then using sweet talk pick up lines may be a good strategy to apply. Sometimes you need to change your game around to fit your environment. Conservative girls require a different type of approach then party or liberal girls. These sweet talk pick up lines are good to use at the library, the church, perhaps a coffee shop. The kind of places you would expect to meet conservative girls.

Before you approach a girl with one of these sweet pick up lines you should have a good idea of what kind of person she is. Again, these are most likely conservative girls that perhaps go to church and have strong family values. I think that is a great thing and these are usually great girls to go after, especially if you are looking for a relationship. Also some of them are extremely beautiful. Sometimes you can easily tell what type of girl they are, by the place they frequent and activities they engage in. For example, studying in the library on a Saturday night, as opposed to getting wasted in a bar.

If she fits the above criteria; here are some great sweet talk pick up lines you can use:

· Don’t leave yet! We haven’t had a chance to talk!

· Would you go to church with me on Sunday?

· I don’t run around, get drunk, or use drugs. Also, I have a good job and a nice home. People say I’m boring; maybe that’s why I’m alone.

· You remind me of someone I knew in high school.

· Did I tell you that my great-uncle was a personal friend of Billy Graham?

· What do you think the apostle Paul meant when he said, ‘Greet everyone with a holy kiss’?

· You have the body of Amy Grant and the soul of Mother Teresa.

· Before tonight, I never believed in predestination.

· That’s a nice Bible.

· God must have been in a great mood the day he made you!

If you have the right attitude, your body language and tone says you are confident; and deliver these sweet talk pick up lines with a smile on your face then provided you are in the right environment and are delivering it to the right type of girl, these lines could work really well.

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Mark Taylor
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After you’ve approached a girl, built some attraction, and got to the hook-point- where it’s mutually understood that you and her are going to talk for a while, it’s time for you to shoot the shit with the girl and build comfort and connection by demonstrating that you’re a socially aware and well-adjusted individual. This comes across in the way you converse- or what we call ‘vibe’- with her. This article provides five key indicators of good social vibing skills:

1) Don’t crack jokes to the girl, and laugh at them before she does. Wait. You’ll notice that it sometimes takes even 10-15 seconds for a joke to process. But it does. Tease her about it a little : “Oh, slow processing time.. That’s OK, you’re my little sister.. I didn’t adopt you for your brains”. Also, don’t say “right” after everything. It can come across beta. Right?

2) When a girl is trying to impress you, recognize it as her qualifying herself. If you reject it, you’ll come across insecure, or socially unaware. This is different from the early stages of a pick-up where you might want to deliberately misinterpret- or break rapport- with a girl in order to demonstrate higher value and build attraction. At this point you should do the reverse, and positively encourage her to impress you by rewarding her attempts.

3) Recognize when its your turn to talk, and when somebody else is being focused on. Again, after the initial period of the pick-up, where the man usually is responsible for most (up to 90%) of the spoken communication, most successful pick-ups substantially reverse this percentage in the middle to late stages of the game. A girl will develop a connection to a guy whom she has perceived to have won over ; she has invested in him, and will therefore expect later to collect the prize (your dick in her mouth).

4) If a girl tells you about a problem, just listen and change her emotion. Say “Ouch, that’s sounds tough.. But hey, you’re a sassy girl, and you know you’re too feisty to let this stop you.. Let’s check out x,y,z”. Definetely don’t offer advice. If she wants advice, she’ll say “What should I do?” Girls want men to be empathetic to their problems without them trying to take corporate ownership of them.

5) Focus on the vibe and don’t cling to topics. Clinging to topics is another sign of try-hard, or insecurity. Just let the conversation go where it wants to- much of the time the girl will do most of this work, requiring only occasional guidance and prompting from you.

The demonstration of proper social skills during the middle stages of a pick-up should, when added to the initial attraction built, provide a relatively easy transition to the various forms of closure- phone, kiss, or lay.

Richard La Ruina
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/practical-female-interaction-how-to-vibe-with-a-girl-103405.html

You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here’s our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1 Expecting him to think like a woman

We’ve all seen loads of books with titles like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don’t think the same way – and while we’re not going to get into why this happens, it’s important to remember that fact when you’re in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don’t see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can’t. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn’t feeling romantic and connected to his partner.
For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn’t need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that’s what women don’t understand.

They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don’t appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex – or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2 Not showing your sexual energy

Women who were brought up to be demure “good girls” (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.

But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion – whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.

3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his penis – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4 Not experimenting with sex

The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour – or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that’s an exaggeration, but it isn’t much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it’s true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they’re not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time – about the things they see, what they’d like to do, how they’d like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it’s not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy.

It doesn’t have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you’ve never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay – or even during the main event. Seduce him into a “quickie” by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you’d like to do to him later that day…..well, you get the idea – use your imagination!

5 Expecting him to read your mind

Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6 Criticizing him

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they’ve never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it – and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk – they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.

Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met – but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you’ve begun to understand that your man won’t know what you want unless you tell him. If you’re judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I’m afraid you aren’t likely to be very satisfied. And it won’t be his fault.

7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm

A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – that a man somehow has to look after “his” woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.

8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don’t want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)

9 Thinking he’ll feel the same way about your body that you do

It just isn’t so. Men don’t attach the judgments to women’s bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won’t matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won’t be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you’re completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he’ll never give it a second thought. It’s women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10 Not making up with sex after an argument

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.

Even if you don’t feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that’s talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track – just go to bed together!

Rod Phillips

Rod Phillips
http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/ten-mistakes-women-make-when-having-sex-with-a-man-74632.html

Meeting Women On The Street

Meeting women on the street is not as hard as it sounds. Living in a busy world you have to take the opportunities where they come. First of all, try to approach her where she can clearly see you. Two things happen here. You can make initial eye contact so that you know that she see’s you. This will also keep from being knocked in the head with her purse.

If, however, you noticed her in passing and have to go back to make yourself known, be sure you say “pardon me” or “excuse me, miss” to get her attention. This will let her know that you want to talk with her exclusively. It will also keep you out of the hospital from a whack by that purse!

When you have her attention, you probably have between 30 seconds and 2 minutes in which to break the ice and get some information. You might say something like this; “I know that you’re probably in a hurry, but you look like an interesting person and I’d like a chance to get to know you a little better.” Be honest, sincere, and concise.

If she gives you a positive response, then take out a pen and paper or your cell phone and get her e-mail address. Tell her that you would like to send her a funny story to allow her to get to know you better. Then, if she doesn’t want things to go any further, all she need do is not answer your e-mail and you won’t contact her again. Give her your name and e-mail address, as well.

Then do what you told her you would do. Send her a funny story. Nothing lewd or that even hints at anything sexual. Just a humorous story you know or can find that will give her a chuckle. After the story tell her that you would like to keep talking, but at her speed. Women need to have control in this f situation.

This will take a little practice. Be confident that you can do this. Make a conscious effort to meet and Talk to Women every day. Unless, of course, you meet the one that you want.

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Debbie, a smart, modern unmarried woman of 32 years, is an executive in a multinational company. These days, financially independent women are claiming equality in every field and most of them believe in having male friends too. Debbie too has three good male friends working in other companies. They are quite close and often meet each other together or separately in clubs, hotels and at her place.

Debbie knows how to keep good relations with friends. She has reached the conclusion that good friends are a boon and are a great help in many ways. However, she does not let any of them take an advantage and treats them just as friends and nothing else. She is of the opinion that when she marries someone who is surely not be anyone from these friends, she will be happy to continue her friendship with them. She feels that her future husband too will be happy to be friendly with her friends as they are all really nice persons.

Sarah, a recently married woman of 29 years had a childhood friend David of the same age who was staying next to her parents’ house. They played together, fought many times and shared their happiness and little sorrows of childhood, adolescence and youth till she got married. There was never any talk of love though both liked each other. After marriage Sarah has moved to another town.

She is an intelligent and sober woman who has deliberately avoided communication with David lest their friendship is taken otherwise by her husband jeopardising their marriage.

FRIENDS – GREATEST ASSETS

Every individual needs friends and women are no exception. With real good friends one feels deep togetherness, closeness, sharing feelings and unconditional support. A true friend is one of life’s greatest assets. A good friend helps at the time of need, tells us our shortcomings and mistakes and tries to stop us when we are on the wrong path.

Friends are those who help you in difficult times and who are happy when you are happy. One has to be very selective in developing a friendship and find a person of an amiable nature who has no vested interest. A woman may have a few friends of same sex and a few male friends in her student life and later when she was unmarried but having male friends in married life is something which creates problems and complications in married life.

Men are always keen to make friends with women as they find women better than men for close emotional relationships. Most men in their heart of hearts carry the subtle hope of developing intimacy with her. As the so-called modern city women themselves are anxious to have male friends, it suits both to be together as friends.

The so-called modern women are confident that their male friends cannot seduce them. But in actual life, they often yield to the advances of their male friends or they themselves take the initiative to fulfil their carnal desires due to their biological urges.

The ancient saints had advised long ago that a female and male should not get closer or sit on the same cot even when they are close relatives. Today’s misguided women in their foolhardiness take advantage of the freedom to develop clandestine relationships, although it is they who suffer in the long run.

Kristy, a woman of 32 years and a proponent of women’s lib, had few male friends before marriage. She always believed that as the men have their friends, why can women not have male friends? Kristy always felt more comfortable with her male friends than her female friends. After marriage when her male friend Tony visited her for the first time, Kristy introduced him to her husband Tim, as her best friend. Tim met him with warmth and dittoed Kristy’s invitation extended to him for dinner at their place. Next day Tim rang up Garima from his office to inform her about his promotion announced that day. The maidservant who attended the phone told him that she had gone to Mrs Walker’s house. He then rang up the Walker’s house to talk to his wife but she was not there.

This aroused suspicions in Tim’s mind. During the next visit of Tony, his suspicion turned into reality as he found them in a compromising position in his own house where on the insistence of Kristy, Tony stayed in their guest room. Tim got so infuriated that he killed both of them with his licensed revolver and informed the police who arrested him for murder.

Angela, aged 34 years and a mother of two pretty daughters, was not happy with her husband Roger. He got so busy in his business pursuits that he now was not able to give proper attention and time to his family. Angela drifted towards her husband’s friend Scott, a local young man of 30 years, who sympathised with her and soon they developed an affair. On finding that his wife has strayed, Roger talked to her about it and both decided to go for divorce on mutual grounds. Scott fixed up Angela in a rented house on the promise of an early marriage but ditched Angela after a year, to marry another girl arranged by his parents. Angela now lives a lonely life after getting badly hurt and feels cheated, used and abandoned. Her family life is spoiled by her unscrupulous male friend and her own passion. She now misses her daughters, her good natured-husband and the earlier comfortable life.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

Friends should be trustworthy and one must have explicit faith in friends. But even then, there is a word of caution. Do not trust anyone too much and blindly even if he is your best friend. People have been betrayed mostly in matters of money, property and women by the persons who were trusted the most. Friendship is a satisfying, warm and positive feeling. A person with friends feels richer mentally and emotionally, and is usually more balanced individual than a loner.

Dangers of having male friends for married women:

* It may create a havoc in family life and lead to separation and divorce.

* It may destroy your reputation and your relatives and neighbours only on suspicion even when the relationship is without any sexual indiscretion.

* The woman runs the risk of losing her life as honour killing is not uncommon.

* When passion and madness take over the good sense of the woman, she may commit the crime of killing her husband in connivance with her paramour and then rot in prison.

* The children suffer in the long run and the woman may not get the custody of her children and thus get deprived of them. Some women do not want the burden of children to be passed on to them as they want to remain free birds with no encumbrances.

Unmarried men and married women as friends:

Women claiming equality in all respects want to continue with their old male friends and do not mind making new male friends even after marriage. But these options are risky. Although the women may be sure about her good friendly relations but who knows the male friend may be lusting about her and may show his true colours sooner or later. Now the question is, does she want to cheat on her husband and if exposed, is she prepared to face the upheaval and anger of her husband who will never like such a thing happening? Men are very sensitive and honour killing is not rare. It should be known that a few women having extramarital affairs have been killed by husbands or their hired killers.

Some women become so blind to their passion that they even get their husbands murdered conniving with their paramours. Not only this, a few women in the past have killed their children who have seen their mother in a compromising position with another man. Instances of grown-up sons murdering their adulterous mother have happened. In such cases the whole family has perished, the killers languishing in prison or punished by a death sentence. Sometimes, women have eloped with their lovers even when they are mothers of three or four children and were in their 30s and 40s.

Married men and married women as friends:

These types of affairs are the worst as not one family suffers but two as the married man is unfaithful to his wife and no more devoted to his family. The man makes false promises to marry her as soon as his divorce with his wife is through but most of the times it does not happen. The married woman who falls for a married man mostly lives as a concubine because most men want to carry on with such affairs on the side avoiding the censor of his family members, community and society. In the long run, the woman has to suffer in many ways for her wrong step. The wife of the man and other family members may create problems for her and even try to eliminate her. Not being a legal wife, she or her children borne out of this relationship, have no right or the man’s property.

Husband’s male friends:

The husband’s male friends may become friends to her and she too may start treating them as her friends as they are always ready to do errands for her. They try to please her by their sweet words of praise for her looks, dress, decoration of the home, her talents, cooking and always find some or other opportunity to be with her. Some unscrupulous men do not hesitate to seduce their friend’s wife who too may get closer to him in her weaker moments knowingly or unknowingly with the associated risk, as such a relationship does not remain hidden for long.

Precautions necessary to avoid adulterous relationships with male friends:

* It is best not to have male friends especially after marriage.

* If you do continue a friendship with a man after marriage and this is resented by your husband, terminate the friendship.

* Do not be foolhardy to insist that you will not give up your friendship as this will bring unhappiness in your family life and may lead to unpleasant consequences.

* Do not get friendly with husband’s male friends and do not let them take too many liberties with you. Keep your distance.

* Have a control on your biological urges lest they bring doom in your life with unlimited miseries by affecting your reputation, respect and happiness.

* Do not get cheated by false praise and false promises. Do not believe men on their face value as most men ultimately develop lustful feeling towards a woman.

* Women can judge the intentions of men very well and correctly, then why fall prey to their lust and repent later?

* Friendship with males is not a very desirable option. Women who treat their husbands as their best and only male friend lead a very satisfying life.

The position of married women is different. Meeting male friends after marriage and moving with them is rarely liked by husbands. They do not like the appreciation which the woman shows towards her friend or what he shows towards her. It may be simple jealousy or a SUspicion about the fidelity and the faithfulness of the woman. This may create problems and may result in making a crack in the married life. It should also be understood that the association between a woman and a man as a friend is always full of risk because the chances of developing intimacy are always great. Rely more on your husband whose good friends will be the well-wishers of his family as well. Make good women friends for yourself for company and emotional support.

Women themselves never like their husbands to have female friends. Even when there may be nothing, his nearness to any woman arouses suspicion in the wife’s mind and she raises a hue and cry about it. She neither likes her female friends to get closer to her husband nor her husband trying to be more free with them, lest he develops an intimate relationship with any of them. Most wise women remain vigilant about their female friends too, lest one of them tries to steal her husband.

Michael Douglas
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/can-married-women-have-male-friends-130446.html

Anorexia is a modern disease that affects a large number of girls in the USA and not only. The girls with anorexia have a distorted image of their own bodies which makes them think that they are overweight even though they are not.

The cause of this psychological affection is the fact that modern society has promoted thinness as beautiful and many consider fat and overweight persons ugly and reject them.

Girls with anorexia become obsessed with the idea that they will not be popular if their weight exceeds the modern standards so they begin by trying to do everything that is in their powers to lose as much weight as they can. Soon this obsession will cloud their vision of their own body and they will see it as overweight even if it is so thin that the health condition of the girl is gravely endangered.

These girls’ only purpose in life will become to lose weight. After losing a certain amount of weight the period stops because the body can’t afford to loose blood in a time when the vital substances provided by food are lacking. Many young girls consider their period to be disgusting and when they discover that they can stop it if they do not eat they are encouraged.

If the period stops the body’s balance is in serious danger, and this can have repercussions that can be felt for years.

So the poor naive girls with anorexia are slowly destroying themselves while foolishly believing that they are doing a good thing.

The behavior of the girls with anorexia must be changed no matter what the cost of this change is. If you try to talk to them they will think you are their enemy and they will fight you and oppose you. It is best to seek professional help from a psychiatrist with experience in children if you want help.

You can recognize a girl with anorexia by her unusual thinness and obsession for losing weight. These girls avoid eating, try to hide their body in large clothes and talk a lot about losing weight and diets. Some of them intentionally make themselves throw up after a meal. If you try to talk to them on this subject they will get upset and maybe cry.

They don’t like to socialize because they think they are rejected by society since they are fat.

If you suspect that your daughter or a friend has anorexia seek advice from a doctor. The girls with anorexia need help and they need it fast, before they do any permanent harm to their body.

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Groshan Fabiola
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So you have been together for some time, but things got shaky and now you find yourself alone. If you think you lost her forever, do not lose hope. You can get your ex girl friend back. It is simple, but not easy. Everything of value takes work. Getting back a girl friend is no exception.

Whatever it was that ruined the relationship, your attitude must have a big contribution to its end. A change in attitude can work wonders. Keep a positive attitude. This does not mean you have to ignore the problems, it only means that you have to see and learn the lesson in every situation – no matter how negative it is. A transformation in your attitude can get your ex girl friend back for good.

Once your attitude is back in shape, it will be a good time to express yourself. Let your ex know how you feel. It may hurt your ego a bit, but remember, to get your ex girl friend back is simple, but not easy! Let your pride take a back seat in the meantime, and be human. You have options: talk one on one in an appropriate place (never the bedroom please!), or if talking seems too odd for you, make it even more odd by writing her a letter and letting her read it (silently) in front of you. Then you can talk from there.

Your letter should be raw – be honest and sincere. Write it in such a way that there is nor room for interpretation – so there will be no miscommunication. Never blame her or yourself. Be gentle with your words. Remember, you want to get your ex girl friend back, and not push her further away. Write about how you feel right now, how you cherish the past that you shared, and how hopeful you are of the future. Write about how you believe that you are sure that she is the one for you.

Now that you have your letter in hand, ask her out for quiet time to talk things out. This part may be hard, especially if she has been avoiding you. Tell her with all sincerity that you would really appreciate it if she would give you some of her time to talk, and that even if you are not sure how things will turn out afterwards, it would still be worthwhile and that you do not expect her to give in to whatever it is you might want. Invite her out in the most non – threatening way you can. Once she agrees to meet, then you are on your way – you will soon get your ex girl friend back!

Once you are alone together, it is best to show interest in her – how she is, how her work is going, what her plans are for the week. Simple chit chat can help keep the tension low. Then you can now share your thoughts by letting her read your letter. Whatever her reaction will be, keep your cool. Respect her decision. A gentleman has more chances at getting his ex girl friend back.

John Purden
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/get-your-ex-girl-friend-back-in-3-simple-steps-681442.html

For a couple of days there, it seemed like the scary stuff was behind you. You had asked that cute girl out, she had said yes, and you had found yourself wrapped up in rosy visions of kissing, canoodling and her laughing wildly at your jokes.

And then you realized. Jokes. Conversation. The most intimidating part is yet to come: you’ve got a first date to go on and you don’t know what to say.

Suddenly you’re scared of uncomfortable silences. You’ve convinced yourself you’ll offend her with every word you utter and the only sentence she’ll be saying is, “Sorry, I’ve got to go.”

Well, calm yourself down. That isn’t going to happen.

You see, I know how to make first date conversation – and I’m about to share my secrets with you.

The first trick is to act calm and comfortable even when you’re not. This isn’t hard to do. Keep your hands still and your body turned towards her. Lean back a little, make eye contact and give her a genuine smile. Every so often, ask yourself if your shoulders feel stiff, and if the answer is yes, consciously relax them.

Now that you’re sitting comfortably, it’s time to think about what you could say.

Start by paying her a compliment. Admiring her slinky top or her striking necklace will instantly boost her confidence and help to put her at ease.

If you don’t know her well, start with a little small talk. Find out what she does for a living and how she spends her free time. Ask if she has ever been to this venue before and whether she has lived locally all her life. Quickly covering the basics will get you both used to talking to each other and will give you points to refer back to later in the night.

Remember that this is your chance to portray yourself in a positive way, so keep the tone light and your comments optimistic. Listing all the things that get you down will make you appear negative and unfriendly so resist any urges to complain about work, worry about money or criticize the bar staff.

It’s important to show a real interest in your date, so ask plenty of open ended questions about the things that she enjoys. Enthusing about her hobbies and ambitions will put her in a great mood and she’ll start to associate that happiness with you.

Never interrupt her when she’s speaking. It’s rude and shows a lack of interest in what she’s thinking. Instead, wait your for turn to talk, and then give upbeat but honest answers to anything she asks you. Don’t feel that you have to agree with her opinions, but avoid becoming strident or aggressive when presenting your own point of view.

If conversation seems to be drying up at any point, a great way to revive it is with hypothetical questions. Ask what she would do if she won a million dollars, where she would love to live in the future or what sort of superhero power she would like.

Remember that she is just as anxious to impress you as you are to be a hit with her, and accept that every first date has awkward moments. Your aim should be not to fill every second with scintillating conversation, but to find common points of interest and to put each other at ease. So relax, enjoy yourself and you could be pleasantly surprised by how the night turns out.

Scott Patterson
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Copyright (c) 2007 Reece Clarkson

If someone had to ask me what my secret was to keeping women in my life it would be this one principle to respecting women. Not being like those so called “all guys are the same” type that women always complain about. When you respect a woman she will do absolutely anything for you as long as you are genuine about it. If you are being fake or just trying to be someone you are not so you can get into a woman’s pants it won’t work they are smarter than you think my friend.

When you respect a woman and she knows it she will brag to all of her friends how much of a good guy you are and you’re already half way there. I know of men who don’t even go out and meet women in night clubs and they consistently have women around them and this is because they respect women and the word travels to other women like a plague. You would have heard of word of mouth? Well women talk and when you are different and unique to men you start to become well known.

So what is respect exactly in the first place? To take notice of, to regard with special attention, to regard as worthy of special consideration, hence, to care for, to heed.

How do you respect a woman? To respect a woman it means to simple be genuine to not play games and to be the real you. To know the difference between right and wrong and to always be honest to yourself and others, to not only respect women but men as well. To not do anything to someone else that you would not like done to yourself.

I hear of men who brag about picking up a woman that has a bf or how they “hooked” up with a woman who is seeing someone. Now these men who brag first of all have no respect because I am sure if that guy had a girlfriend and she cheating on him with another man he would not be too happy about it. What this guy doesn’t realise is that word travels fast and that eventually the word will get out and when it does women TALK and that guy will be known as a guy who has no respect for women therefore ruining his chances with all of the woman’s friends and then their friends which will be attractive high quality women.

Women don’t want to hang around men that they cannot trust they want to hang around a man who has his life together and has respect for himself and others. I can honestly tell you that having respect for women is one of the biggest causes for women being drawn to me.

I had received a phone call the other day from a female friend and she was telling me how her boyfriend was intimidated by me and she was explaining how she said to him he had nothing to worry about because out of “ALL” the guys she knows I am one that respects women and would never go there. Having respect for women not only goes a long way but the friendship made and trust built is remarkable. You don’t have any bitch shields when approaching their friends because they are practically pushing their friends towards you because you are such a “good guy.”

So I don’t know about you men but if you never had to approach another woman in your life again and you had attractive quality women approaching you seeking your approval and wanting to be with you then that wouldn’t be that bad of a problem to have would it?

Reece Clarkson
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